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08 Mar

Self-Love Time!

I held a retreat last month and part of the focus was on love—including self-love. Self-love is an area with which most women struggle. We spend a lot of our time giving to our partners, children, family, friends and work colleagues but when it comes to giving to ourselves—being kind to ourselves—that is more difficult.

A way to develop self-love is to engage in self-care. Self-care is an act of self-love. When we self-care well we attend to the many responsibilities in our lives with more enthusiasm; we feel better emotionally—feeling less resentful, frustrated and angry when managing life’s demands.

Care about your whole self

Most of us do not engage in good self-care with respect to our body, emotions and our spirit; we may care for one area of our being and forget about the others. However, all aspects of our being need to be nourished with love in order to feel whole and complete.

Therefore, we need to take good care of our body, as our body is the vehicle that carries us through life. Looking after our emotional wellbeing is very important too, for our emotions play a big part in our enjoyment of life. And giving attention and love to our spirit is essential if we want to live a balanced life. Self-care strategies that feed our soul are the ultimate acts of self-love.

Here are some examples of self-care acts that will help you to be more kind and loving towards yourself.

Physical self-care

Joining an exercise or movement class to keep your body in good shape

Eating healthily

Regularly treating your body to a massage, a Reiki session—or whatever therapy you enjoy—that will help to maintain or improve the condition of your body

Emotional self-care

Being honest to yourself about your emotional wellbeing and undertaking strategies that help you to feel less anxious and frustrated—more peaceful and content

Setting boundaries, knowing when to say ‘no’ to things—instead of taking on more commitments

Seeking professional help when your emotions get the better of you

Spiritual self-care

Making time for yoga, meditation, prayer or contemplation—quiet time that brings feelings of peace and balance to your life

Subscribe to an online course or attend a spiritual group where you can learn and have the support of like-minded people

Feed your soul with words of wisdom from inspirational reading material

Self-love is our responsibility

We have a personal responsibility to take care of ourselves. If we don’t ensure that we are in a good place physically, emotionally and spiritually, it makes attending to life—to all of its demands and responsibilities—much more difficult.

So it’s time to be aware of how to care… for yourself!

Action Challenge

This month make self-love your focus. What little things can you do that will help you to be kind and gentle to yourself?

We feel much better and we are able to give more easily when we have had a little top-up of love ourselves. So start loving your-self today!

To learn about my number one self-love tip, watch my 3 minute video.

09 Feb

Relationship Divine!

With Valentine’s Day occurring this month, I thought that ‘relationships’ would be an appropriate topic. Valentine’s Day is focused on love and relationships—but sometimes personal relationships don’t always work out. When this occurs does this mean we have failed?

Read on to find out…

Absolute relationship!

Whilst relaxing in the evening, I happened to pick up the book Your Sacred Self, by the Late Dr. Wayne Dyer. My hand randomly opened a page.

As my eyes scanned the page they fell upon the following paragraph. I smiled; it was no coincidence that my fingers were guided to the page for, during the day, I had seen several clients who were dealing with broken relationships issues.

As I read Wayne Dyer’s words of wisdom, I found myself nodding in agreement for his words succinctly said it all…

“Dropping your personal history means dropping the belief that a failed relationship makes you a failure. There are no failed relationships. Every person who enters and exits your life does so in a mutual sharing of life’s divine lessons. Some have longer roles to play than others, but ultimately, you will return to your relationship to the absolute.”

—Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, (1995) page 46, Your Sacred Self, USA, Harper Collins Publishers

The spiritual perspective

Every person that walks in and out of our personal story plays an important role in our spiritual development. Sometimes the roles they play are difficult for us to let go of; it takes time for us to adjust and realise that the relationship has served its time—has come to an end

A helpful outlook is to focus on the spiritual meaning of the relationship. To appreciate that, ‘the role’ they ‘played out’ in our personal storyline occurred for growth and lessons that are designed to move us away from our ego-driven selves—into the heart of our spiritual nature.

In truth, every physical relationship that we encounter has a divine plan and purpose that leads us to a better understanding of our spiritual selves and our Divine relationship.

A relationship that’s Divine

Throughout life, many of our relationships will come to an end. No matter how much we love another, physical relationships are not permanent. Only our relationship with The Divine is eternal. It’s the only relationship that is built on unconditional love and it’s the one that we can truly say will last forever!

That being the case, surely our divine relationship deserves our utmost love and attention!

Do you want to improve your relationship with The Divine? Here’s a video I put together a little while ago on the greatest relationship of all.

19 Jan

Perfect Timing

It was the 5^th January, 2016, and in less than 7 hours of arriving home from our overseas holiday the phone rang. It was the hospital to say that my husband’s brother, Richard, had been admitted to the emergency department.

In our discussions with the medical staff, the news was not good. Taking into account Richard’s current medical condition it was apparent that his chances of recovery were slim.

Richard was managed by the medical team with dedicated care and attention. Sadly, 5 days later he peacefully passed away.

Throughout this difficult time, I kept thanking The Universe for ensuring that we were home in time so we could be there for Richard. There was no doubt in my mind that the timing of our return was perfectly choreographed by a greater Source!

The right moment

This recent experience reminded me how the timing of events is not something that we can control. Whilst we are busy making plans— particularly at this time of year when we work towards our New Year goals and resolutions—life has its own timing.

Often we place a lot of pressure on ourselves believing that things need to be completed within certain timeframes yet, the rhythm of life has a more perfect timeframe in-store!

My New Year’s Resolution

In view of recent events, this year I have decided that whilst I have a list of goals that I want to work towards and achieve, I am going to be mindful and trusting of life’s perfect timing. Whilst I have a plan in my mind of ‘when’ things should be completed, and I work towards completing that plan, I’m still willing to hand the completion date over to a greater Source—a Source which has a much better grip on the perfect timing of life than I!

Trust life’s timing

During 2016, set your goals and dreams, work towards them, do what you need to do in order to achieve your goals but remember: if the timing does not match your desired timeframe, there will be a reason as to why this is so.

This doesn’t mean that you give up, that you drop your goals or abandon them. It does mean that you need to be patient as you surrender to a timing that is perfectly scripted for you.

Over time, your goals will be achieved and when you look back on the timing of how your goals came to be, you will marvel at the perfection of it all!

Video

Here is a delightful video of a dog that’s instinctively in-tune with the timing of life!

22 Dec

Christmas Love

Like it or not, here we are again.

It’s the week before Christmas and many people are out and about gathering last minute presents; visiting friends and relatives; finalising, organising and preparing for Christmas.

We plan and work hard in preparation for one single day and yes, at times, it can seem like a crazy thing to do but … Christmas is a time of celebration and joyful connection with those we love.

And more than that, it’s a time to be reminded to live the message of Christ—to live with love.

Love is the true message of Christmas yet, sometimes, we lose focus. Caught up in all the commercialism that is so rife at this time of the year, we lose sight of Christ’s true message.

To conclude my blogs for 2015, I’d like to end with part of a message that we received from Spirit during one of our healing meditations.

It so perfectly reminds us of the true meaning and spirit of Christmas; love all of humanity and especially those who harm others, for it is through love that we can change their hearts—lift them from darkness to light.

Love can save our world.

Spirit’s Message of Love

Here is Spirit’s message received on 11.12.11. Considering the world events that have been occurring lately, Spirit’s message of 4 years ago is even more pertinent in the world today!

“…May we ask you, during this period, as much as you can, as you can, when you can, just to give love to humanity. To project love to all of those peoples in the world who disagree with each other and who, regrettably, harm each other’s physical beings.

Direct your love to them as a gift in the recognition of the birth of The Christ energy in human form.

See the light of Christ pouring into their beings as though you were directing a beam of light towards them. See the light being absorbed into their spirit-selves and the adjustment that that unending love will bring to their physical thinking.

If you can find time to do that, you will greatly help people who live in terrible darkness; you will greatly help countless millions of people upon your earth.”

A gift for all

During this special week, as we gather together and spend time with those we cherish, let us be mindful to extend our love to all on earth.

Christ’s love was for all. Let our hearts be a perfect reflection of His love during Christmastime and throughout the coming year.

This Christmas, give a gift to the world; project love!

May peace fill your hearts, may love carry you on wings of joy.

Blessings, peace, happiness and LOVE to you this Christmas.

15 Dec

Enjoy Christmas

Christmas is meant to be a time of great peace and enjoyment yet, sadly, for most, it’s a time of great stress.

How can we stay healthy and enjoy this special time of year?

The key is to focus our attention on what Christmastime is really about: Inner-peace and goodwill. Both improve our wellbeing and when we incorporate them into our lives, our personal stress levels reduce and our enjoyment of Christmas increases.

Here are some suggestions on how to incorporate these qualities so that you stay well and enjoy this Christmas season.

Foster Peace

Spend time in peaceful contemplation each day. As little as10 minutes a day is enough to foster feelings of inner-peace.

Approach Christmas shopping with a peaceful attitude. Make a commitment to stay calm and unflustered even if the people around you are rushing.

Make it easier on yourself: Purchase simpler and fewer gifts; limit the number of social engagements that you attend so that you don’t over-commit yourself.

Go for morning or evening walks. It’s a great time of the year to be out and about and there is nothing like nature to bring peaceful feelings to our heart.

Foster Goodwill

Reach out to those you know who have experienced a recent loss; who are healing from an illness; who are lonely, poor or hungry. Kindhearted acts are great stress-busters and heart-warmers.

There are many charities that need extra help during Christmastime. Why not volunteer to help or contribute financially through food and/or toy donations. Making someone else’s life a little happier makes a day very worthwhile.

Christmas Joy!

You can reduce your stress levels and enjoy Christmas more by doing these things which will make your life—and the lives of those around you—so much better.

08 Dec

Healthy Christmas Gifts

During Christmas, much of our focus is on buying gifts for others. Whilst it’s good to give to others, it’s also good to give to ourselves.

Here are some personal gifts that won’t break the budget and that’ll improve your health during the festive time.

The gift of Patience

Busy roads, crowded shops; we can’t get away from the fact that it is a hectic time of year but if we adopt a more patient attitude towards it, we will approach it in a more peaceful manner. Patience is a great gift to our blood pressure.

The gift of Forgiveness

The festive season means family time. Whilst it can be difficult to get along with everyone in our immediate and extended family units, focusing on healing broken relationships or tolerating them in a more open-minded way—instead of entrenching them deeper—is a huge gift to yourself.

It’s amazing what happens when our heart opens up to forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift in emotional freedom.

The gift of Calmness

Tired of getting swept up in the Festive rush? Then why not commit to rushing less this year. You can achieve this by planning ahead and being mindful of creating an enjoyable time—without stress. Staying calm is a gift to your mind.

The gifts of Peace, Love and Joy

Start the season early by taking to heart this festive theme. Concentrating on the real meaning of Christmas time – peace, spirit of friendship, kindheartedness – makes us feel happier and it is a gift to our spiritual wellbeing.

The Gift of Moderation

This is the time of excess food and alcohol consumption. Rather than overload your body with extra calories enjoy the treats in moderation. Knowing when to stop is a great gift to your whole body and it will mean fewer calories to burn off in the New Year!

Indulge!

Gift yourself these treats this Christmas. They cost nothing and they’re good for your body, mind and soul!